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Reality is less appealing...
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Fear and Envy
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What tempts you?
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Great article on identity
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  Testimony that should be a wake up call
Posted by: Barnabas - 01-11-2020, 07:25 AM - Forum: Transgender Discussions - No Replies

This article, "I spent a year as a trans man. Doctors failed me at every turn" is quite disturbing. Things are moving so fast in our culture regarding trans issues, and lives our being ruined, bodies being destroyed, literally. Read this testimony

https://www.intellectualtakeout.org/arti...yU7PHKjIi8

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  Rewards / punishments
Posted by: Barnabas - 01-10-2020, 10:29 AM - Forum: General Discussion - Replies (4)

How many of you have an accountability system with rewards and punishments, so that you have some sort of consequence for yourself if you have a crossdressing failure, or perhaps you have a reward given to you by yourself or your accountability partner or your wife for a long season of victory with no failure?

If so, what are your ideas and suggestions?

I'm talking about consequences like - fasting, or giving money away, or going without internet for a few days, or giving up movies for a few days
I'm talking about rewards like - going out to eat to celebrate, a new toy/gadget, doing something fun that would normally be something you wouldn't get to do

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  Wife's fashion?
Posted by: Barnabas - 01-10-2020, 10:23 AM - Forum: Crossdressing Discussions - Replies (3)

Does it help your recovery from crossdressing or hurt your recovery to have your wife wear fancy clothes, dresses, makeup, jewelry, etc.? 

I've heard guys in this community say both.  For me, I think it helps me a lot. I enjoy the femininity of my wife, and when I think about her and her beauty, the crossdressing desires vastly diminish.

What about for you?

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  Talking about CD
Posted by: Barnabas - 01-10-2020, 10:17 AM - Forum: Wives Chat - Replies (1)

If a husband has committed to giving up crossdressing, and has accountability partners, and is doing well, how often should he have conversations about it with his wife? What is healthy?

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  Dozens of testimonies
Posted by: Barnabas - 01-03-2020, 03:29 AM - Forum: Testimonies - Replies (1)

I came across this great organization full of testimonies about those with gender dysphoria or same-sex attraction giving up those old identities, and finding new life and freedom in Christ.

https://www.equippedtolove.com/about/

https://changedmovement.com/about
https://changedmovement.com/stories

In case you are wondering as you read the testimonies, they are against conversion therapy (the old definition of conversion therapy, not the new definition which would include any effort to help someone not to give in to their same-sex desires).
Read about their stance here - https://www.equippedtolove.com/consulting/

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  How are men and women different?
Posted by: Barnabas - 12-27-2019, 12:51 AM - Forum: Sex and Gender Differences Discussions - No Replies

This article, "How are men and women different" by pastor Kevin DeYoung was quite good. He is very careful and very balanced, and this might be one of the best Christian articles I've read trying to give a somewhat clear answer on the differences between men and women, while at the same time allowing for individual uniqueness.

https://www.9marks.org/article/how-are-m...n2WdNPjrU4

What do you think?

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  How to have victory over temptation
Posted by: Barnabas - 12-27-2019, 12:36 AM - Forum: Links to Share - No Replies

Someone shared this article with me, and it's worthy to share here, very helpful:

"Gaining Victory Over Temptation"
https://ftc.co/resource-library/1/5013

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  Long Article
Posted by: Barnabas - 12-13-2019, 03:30 AM - Forum: Homosexuality Discussions - Replies (1)

Fairly dense article addressing the common objection to interpretations of scripture regarding sexual issues like homosexuality,

But That’s Just Your Interpretation!
by D.A. Carson

https://themelios.thegospelcoalition.org...pretation/

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  Men and women are different
Posted by: Barnabas - 12-13-2019, 02:59 AM - Forum: Sex and Gender Differences Discussions - No Replies

PragerU video arguing against modern gender ideology, stating that men and women are indeed different and explaining why it matters.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n3Wsp66QSyE

Thoughts?

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  We need Each other
Posted by: Barnabas - 12-06-2019, 03:20 AM - Forum: Links to Share - Replies (1)

This article is about porn addiction, but it applies to our sexual addiction as well. It's not enough to tell people to read the Bible more or pray more. That's an individualistic way of dealing with the problem.  We need each other. We need accountability. We need people to speak Gospel good news to us when we fail. We need people to encourage us. We need people to call us out of sin. We need people to help us with strategies of overcoming the addiction.

Here is the article - "Reading the Bible and Praying More Won't Break your Porn Addiction"
https://corechristianity.com/resource-library/3/1509

Consider joining our prayer group for men who struggle with crossdressing or sexual addiction - http://www.healingfromcrossdressing.org/prayer-group/

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