As a wife of a CD'er, I really appreciate this topic.  (By the way, if it is not good for a wife to be posting here - if it hinders anyone - please let me know!!!)  I struggle with wondering (fearing) whether my husband is a homosexual, has tendencies or longings to be, fantasizes when crossdressed about sex with a man (or woman for that matter, but that's not the point of this thread), etc.  I ask my husband and he denies having any sort of homosexual feelings.  Because of broken trust in the past, I have a hard time completely believing what my husband tells me.  I hope that in this discussion I can get an idea of the numbers who DO and who DO NOT have homosexual involvement (even if only in their minds).  I look forward to getting some honest thoughts from other (past or present) crossdressers.

Please pray for my husband to draw close to God and to start living out his salvation.  Thanks!

I was just thinking about how one of the primary differences between men and women is that men are stronger physically.  We have naturally bigger bodies (on average) and naturally more strength and speed (on average).  In the past, throughout history, this difference would easily set women and men apart, and just doing simple things like carrying water or cutting down trees for wood would highlight that difference again and again on a daily basis. 

Today, in our modern times, in our societies with so much technology, there isn't really much of a need for physical strength most of the time. I wonder how much of that has made things confusing for seeing the differences between men and women, and enjoying the difference of strength as men?

There are more differences than this, but let me just try to generalize. In the past, men could enjoy being strong, enjoy that difference as men, enjoy doing physical labor, enjoy protecting their wives and children, etc,. That would all help them to feel like men.  And women could enjoy being the only one who could get pregnant, give birth, breastfeed, etc.  Today, of course women still get to enjoy that mark of womanhood, that men do not get to do. But men don't get to do much that involves their strength, that involves protecting women with their strength.  For protection, strength doesn't matter much, people have guns. For physical labor, we use machines for everything so everything is quite easy.

Anyway, I'm rambling a bit, but I'm wondering if we have lost something enjoyable about being men in our modern times, that has in turn caused more confusion today with all the crossdressing, gender dysphoria, identity confusions, and the whole phenomenon of depressed men, men spending their whole lives in video games, men who are not sure who they are, men who are not fulfilled.

Thoughts?

Another feature of this forum is that you can edit your profile. You can put in a signature, you can change your avatar and much more.  To change your avatar just find any photo you want online and you can upload it, it will resize it for you.  But you can also search on google for "download avatar" and you'll get pages of choices.

Note that a fun feature of these forums is you can give a user reputation points for their comment.  If someone gives a helpful comment, you can give them a rep point. If someone gives an offensive or harmful comment, you can give them a thumbs down, you can get them negative points.

This is similar to reddit.  Obviously such a thing could be abused, but let's see how it works.  It can be a way to appreciate people who regularly are helping others through their comments.

As a child, do you think either fear or envy of girls (or feminine things) contributed to the creation of your crossdressing desires? 
Is it possible that we might have had both fear and envy at the same time?

Praise the Lord for helping me to get this new website up and running! God provided the help of some volunteer experts who assisted me. It was many long hours of work, but I'm very happy with the final result.  Spend some time thanking God for what he has done, and pray that God will bless this ministry.