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How does anyone else deal with songs that play though our perverse world? 

I don't listen to any music other than Scripture songs or Christian hymms but my work plays garbage all day long and it seems like sex is the focus on every song and some songs are triggers like "girls just want to have fun" Most of the triggers I don't actually know the name of but it seems like its everywhere. 

Movies, tv and books have the garbage too. Some childhood books I remember having it was "the Wizard of Oz" but I also remember so called "christian" books with cross dressing in it. Some of Mark Twain's books had cross dressing too... I'm an avid reader but it seems like sex and perversion is through it everywhere or at the very least, innuendos... 

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It is tough. I have found that for me, rather than running away from all triggers, I need to learn how to view them differently so that they don't tempt me or trigger me to sin. In this world, we cannot run away from all temptation. We need to learn self control. I want to take Jesus' command seriously to reduce temptation and cut off the hand that is causing me to sin. But there is only so much we can do.

If you run away from everything that triggers, all the time, then when you do face a trigger, you may not be ready, and you may fail. It's better sometimes to face what triggers us, recognize it for what it really is (instead of what it falsely promises), and practice self control. Then it becomes easier and easier to face those things and not give in, and eventually not even be tempted.

Today you cannot even read the newspaper without seeing 5 articles a day about transgenderism or crossdressing. It's just rampant. I've been able to look at such article headlines, and resist the urge to read them, and I just have pity for the people they are about. They don't cause me any trigger or temptation anymore.

You cannot run away from temptation if you struggle with crossdressing. Every time you see female clothes it's a trigger, whether in magazines, websites, or on people in your life. Seeing your wife's clothes lying out as well. Watching television shows or movies. There is no getting away from seeing female clothing. So you have to learn to start doing cognitive work, changing your thoughts and paradigms when you see female clothes, relook at them in an appropriate way, and learn self control.
1 Corinthians 16:13-14 –
13 Be on your guard; stand firm in the faith; be men of courage; be strong. 14 Do everything in love.


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(02-22-2020, 06:39 AM)Barnabas Wrote: It is tough. I have found that for me, rather than running away from all triggers, I need to learn how to view them differently so that they don't tempt me or trigger me to sin.  In this world, we cannot run away from all temptation. We need to learn self control.  I want to take Jesus' command seriously to reduce temptation and cut off the hand that is causing me to sin.  But there is only so much we can do.

If you run away from everything that triggers, all the time, then when you do face a trigger, you may not be ready, and you may fail. It's better sometimes to face what triggers us, recognize it for what it really is (instead of what it falsely promises), and practice self control.  Then it becomes easier and easier to face those things and not give in, and eventually not even be tempted.

Today you cannot even read the newspaper without seeing 5 articles a day about transgenderism or crossdressing. It's just rampant. I've been able to look at such article headlines, and resist the urge to read them, and I just have pity for the people they are about. They don't cause me any trigger or temptation anymore.  

You cannot run away from temptation if you struggle with crossdressing. Every time you see female clothes it's a trigger, whether in magazines, websites, or on people in your life. Seeing your wife's clothes lying out as well. Watching television shows or movies. There is no getting away from seeing female clothing. So you have to learn to start doing cognitive work, changing your thoughts and paradigms when you see female clothes, relook at them in an appropriate way, and learn self control.

I LOVE this reply.  It seems so important, to change the way of thinking about things...and we DO have control over how we think, it just takes lots of practice and good self-control.  Thanks, Barnabas!
Life is hard, but God is good. 
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There are only two songs that i can thing of that directly relate to the act of crossdressing as a specific act and not just happen to be coincidental in our minds, as crossdressing is always on OUR minds, even if you wished it was not. The songs are Lou Reeds walk on the wild side, which is very definitely about transgenderism and Pink Floyds Arnold Lain, which is actually (if you listen to the song carefully) anti crossdressing.

I think that as we are all deeply involved in the TG/CD world it is very easy to read too much in the the lyrics of songs or even stories in books where the protagonists may dress as a woman to carry out a crime, etc. Coveredinshames mention of the song "girls just want to have fun" which he believes means the girls want sex, I interpret and always have that it means that girls just literally want to have FUN, ie to dance, sing, play games or anything that makes them happy (which could of course include sex) and I would never have connected this in a sexual/pornographic context.

I think that if you are interpreting every thing you see or hear to have a crossdressing/transgender/pornographic meaning then you need to stop and think carefully about why you think that. It is almost certain that interpretation is not what the writer intended and would not have given a thought to how just one or two people may interpret it differently. Many times the words of modern "pop" songs are actually just meaningless drivel!

As in Karens excellent reply to Barnabus, we CAN and SHOULD control how we think!
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